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Pamela's Favorite Posts on Health, Happiness, and Spirituality

Read through some of the top posts from Pamela Miles about health, happiness, and spirituality.

Love Your Ego

Love Your Ego

Pamela Miles Favorites, Practice

Everyone wants to love and be loved.

Your ego is no different. But the ego has a harder time finding love because it’s confused about what love is and where love comes from.

From its first whiff of love, the ego assumes love comes from outside. The ego sets off looking for more, and fears losing the love it has. So to the ego, love is deeply intertwined with fear.

That fear thing makes it hard for the ego to release deeply into love, and easy for ego to come up with lots of reasons why it — and you — are  unlovable and will be rejected once truly seen. And thus self-loathing is born.

Sound familiar?

Not just for fairy tales

You know the part in the fairy tale when kissing the frog reveals him as the prince he’s always been?

What if your ego were like that prince (or princess)?

What if you dared to love your ego, just as it is? Yes, it takes great courage, but if you dare to truly love your ego with full awareness of all the reasons you now despise or deny it, you’ve essentially kissed the frog, and you know what happens then.  You experience your own glorious essence playing as yourself — ego and all.

Transforming your relationship to ego

Try it. The next time you notice self revulsion rising, don’t distract yourself. Instead, relax into its presence.

But instead of diving into the feeling, stay present as the witness, the one who is experiencing the feeling.

When you feel the desire to love and be loved that gives rise to self-revulsion (which is the assumption that you are not lovable), settle into that desire to love and be loved, to be good, to be valued, to be whole.

Allow your desire for love to permeate your awareness and, in the depths of that longing, you’ll come to know that you are not simply loved, but love itself.

Why not give it a try? After all, what have you got to lose? Not love, and not your ego, just your confusion about them.

  • 14 June
  • 07 Responses
Gratitude Works Diligently

With Gratitude, Work Diligently

Pamela Miles Favorites, Practice

In practice,
there is much repetition,
and there is no repetition.

Much repetition when we repeat the form of our practice—
the when, where, and how.

And often repetition in the sensations of our practice,
the familiar pulsing cascade,
the familiar thinking melting into silence,
the familiar refuge of stillness that opens within.

But not always…. Read More

  • 16 September
  • 13 Responses
Transforming Obstacles Happiness

Transforming Obstacles into Happiness

Pamela Miles Favorites, Lifestyle

I want to get into your head (so to speak).

I want to know what troubles you, where you feel unsure, what’s holding you back.

And where you hold back.

“Why?” you might ask (to say nothing of “Do I really want this woman in my head?”)…. Read More

  • 13 September
  • 34 Responses
All Authentic Time

All Authentic, All the Time

Pamela Miles Favorites, Practice

Ever caught yourself practicing being authentic? It’s a very human moment.

We know that practicing being authentic is silly, but we long to simply be ourselves, and haven’t a clue where to start.

We are not totally misguided when we practice authenticity. After all, we learn other things through practice, by adopting the posture, so why not authenticity?… Read More

  • 12 September
  • 03 Responses
Chipped

Chipped

Pamela Miles Favorites, Practice

Putting away a favorite teapot, I notice a chip.

Not the first chip on this well used teapot.

Somehow the chips make it even more dear to me…. Read More

  • 11 September
  • 09 Responses
Spiritual Practice Ego Heart

Spiritual Practice, Ego, and Heart

Pamela Miles Favorites, Practice

Ego is mentioned frequently in spiritual circles and discussions, usually with snide derision, as if it should be permanently blacklisted. As if it’s inherently dirty, shameful, bad…

But if you think about it, ego’s not the problem.

What would we do without ego? How would we function as individuals? What motivation would we have to practice?… Read More

  • 10 September
  • 14 Responses

Sunflowers and Spiritual Practice

Pamela Miles Favorites, Practice

Sunflowers turn unerringly to the light. They don’t think about it. It just happens.

Humans are different.

Our instincts are often no better than GPS advising a left turn on a cement-divided highway (yes, mine did that!).

Fortunately, when we’re driving, common sense keeps us from following ill-advised directions…. Read More

  • 09 September
  • 04 Responses

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